A certain degree of neurosis is of inestimable value as a drive, especially
to a psychologist.
A man should not
strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them:
they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world.
America is a mistake,
a giant mistake.
America is the
most grandiose experiment the world has seen, but, I am afraid, it is
not going to be a success.
is true, decide nothing, but they can make one feel more at home.
honest with oneself is a good exercise.
Children are completely
egoistic; they feel their needs intensely and strive ruthlessly to satisfy
a process in the service of Eros, whose purpose is to combine single
human individuals, and after that families, then races, peoples and
nations, into one great unity, the unity of mankind. Why this has to
happen, we do not know; the work of Eros is precisely this.
Every normal person,
in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that
of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent.
He does not believe
that does not live according to his belief .
He that has eyes
to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep
a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal
oozes out of him at every pore.
How bold one gets
when one is sure of being loved!
I cannot think
of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.
I have found little
that is "good" about human beings on the whole. In my experience
most of them are trash, no matter whether they publicly subscribe to
this or that ethical doctrine or to none at all. That is something that
you cannot say aloud, or perhaps even think.
If youth knew;
if age could.
themselves to us because they save us pain and allow us to enjoy pleasure
instead. We must therefore accept it without complaint when they sometimes
collide with a bit of reality against which they are dashed to pieces.
It is impossible
to overlook the extent to which civilization is built upon a renunciation
Just as a cautious
businessman avoids investing all his capital in one concern, so wisdom
would probably admonish us also not to anticipate all our happiness
from one quarter alone.
Love and work
are the cornerstones of our humanness.
Man has, as it
were, become a kind of prosthetic God. When he puts on all his auxiliary
organs, he is truly magnificent; but those organs have not grown on
him and they still give him much trouble at times.
Men are more moral
than they think and far more immoral than they can imagine.
Men are strong
so long as they represent a strong idea they become powerless when they
Most people do
not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and
most people are frightened of responsibility.
Neurosis is the
inability to tolerate ambiguity.
of their illness, but they make the most of it, and when it comes to
talking it away from them they will defend it like a lioness her young.
No one who has
seen a baby sinking back satiated from the breast and falling asleep
with flushed cheeks and a blissful smile can escape the reflection that
this picture persists as a prototype of the expression of sexual satisfaction
in later life.
No one who, like
me, conjures up the most evil of those half-tamed demons that inhabit
the human beast, and seeks to wrestle with them, can expect to come
through the struggle unscathed.
must hold oneself responsible for the evil impulses of one's dreams.
In what other way can one deal with them? Unless the content of the
dream rightly understood is inspired by alien spirits, it is part of
my own being.
One is very crazy
when in love.
not necessarily enmity; it is merely misused and made an occasion for
Religion is an
illusion and it derives its strength from the fact that it falls in
with our instinctual desires.
Sometimes a cigar
is just a cigar.
The act of birth
is the first experience of anxiety, and thus the source and prototype
of the affect of anxiety.
The ego is not
master in its own house.
The first human
who hurled an insult instead of a stone was the founder of civilization.
The goal of all
life is death.
The goal towards
which the pleasure principle impels us - of becoming happy - is not
attainable: yet we may not - nay, cannot - give up the efforts to come
nearer to realization of it by some means or other.
The great question
that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to
answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul,
is "What does a woman want?"
forces itself upon one that men measure by false standards, that everyone
seeks power, success, riches for himself, and admires others who attain
them, while undervaluing the truly precious thing in life.
The liberty of
the individual is no gift of civilization. It was greatest before there
was any civilization.
The only bodily
organ which is really regarded as inferior is the atrophied penis, a
The tendency to
aggression is an innate, independent, instinctual disposition in man...
it constitutes the powerful obstacle to culture.
We are never so
defensless against suffering as when we love.
We have long observed
that every neurosis has the result, and therefore probably the purpose,
of forcing the patient out of real life, of alienating him from actuality.
We must reckon
with the possibility that something in the nature of the sexual instinct
itself is unfavorable to the realization of complete satisfaction.
What a distressing
contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and
the feeble mentality of the average adult.
we are making. In the Middle Ages they would have burned me. Now they
are content with burning my books.
What we call happiness
in the strictest sense comes from the (preferably sudden) satisfaction
of needs which have been dammed up to a high degree.
becomes humble. Those who love have, so to speak, pawned a part of their